Nowhere else on Earth will you find a wide variety of single moms then you will in the state of Utah. And not only are we talking a single mom of one but a single mom of several.
Utah is a breeding ground of newborns. Especially blonde hair/blue eye babies. We're talking good looking "Children Of The Corn" kids running all over the place.
It's not really Utah more than it is the conditioning of the Mormon religion. Big families are a big deal with this church. And if Mitt Romney gets in the White House (yeah, RIGHT!) they'll have to build an extension to it just to house everyone in his family and extended family.
It must be hard to be a single mom in Utah. I know it was for my mom. So for me to write a blog that somewhat mocks just how prominent it is here, is ironic. And possibly, slightly rude.
I mean no offense to single moms. But it's crazy insane the amount of single mothers I've been encountering while doing this online personals thing. It's not just the single mom I've been witnessing but the AGE of the single mom.
I've been reading the profiles of many single moms who are anywhere from 18-40 years old and many of them with more than one kid. But the younger ones, like between 18-22, have more than one kid. There is one young lady whose profile I was reading that is 22 and has THREE kids. Yet she has never been married.
Another young woman was 19 with two kids and DIVORCED. WHHHAAAAAAT?! This is nutty. Well, clearly this has happened because someone busted a nutty and had a little buddy and left the female which left things muddy and that must make that female feel like silly putty.
Man, that was a lame attempt at a joke and a rhyming poem.
Anyway, I know that for my mom that her having a little bastard made it difficult for her to find a suitor. She dated a couple of guys while I was growing up but never really settled down with anyone. That must have been really hard. Everyone needs a companion. She never really got hers. I feel partly to blame there because I was the kid that got in the way.
This isn't to say I feel responsible for her non-existent dating life. But I empathize with her situation. It's tough to be a single mom trying to make ends meet and find someone you connect with that also likes kids and wants to be a part of a bigger picture.
I've been involved with some single moms over the years. Some I've been close with where I've been around their children. Others I've been with and they've introduced me to their kids too early.
And still others I've been involved with never talked about their kids all that much nor had me around them. It all depends on how a single mom views the man she is seeing, I guess.
Personally, if I date a single mom, I'd like to meet the kids much later in the relationship. It seems only appropriate. If a single mom and I were just hooking up for good times and casual sex, there is no point for me to interact with her children.
But when is a good time? One girlfriend I had, Lisa from Reno, Nevada, used to screw the hell out of me back in the day. Then she moved away when she joined the Navy. She also got married (even after I stressed to her not to) after two weeks of knowing some guy she met while in the Navy.
The marriage went bust and so did her time in the military (with an honorable discharge). When she came back to Reno, she was now a mom. When I finally heard from her, she was calling me from her hospital room to let me know she was having another child.
Wow.
She and I hung out for quite a bit after she had her second baby. We had sex a couple of times, too. Maybe it was just once? I don't remember exactly. I just know that I had feelings for her but not enough to sustain a relationship and certainly not to be a father to her children.
I truly believe she has hated me for this and made it clear she never wanted to speak to me again when I upset her regarding my feelings for her.
She's since remarried and still lives in Reno with her husband, Mitch. I've thought about her from time to time and envied Mitch because I liked Lisa a great deal. But not enough to commit to her in a long term relationship that involved children. I said that already.
There was another female I was briefly involved with named Nicole. Nicole lived outside of Reno in a town called Fernley. She had two kids and was still a young, wild woman who I felt, at times, just wanted to fuck and drink. Ironically, she was Mormon.
The sex was fun with her but that was about it. The distance between us and our schedules made seeing each other hard. Plus, she was a close friend of the girlfriend of MY friend. That's how we met, actually. Thanks Brieanna.
Long story short, I wasn't really into her, she wasn't into me and blah, blah, blah. But one moment I remember about some sex we had was when I first met her kids. I had gone out to her place in Fernley to hang out for the night. At some point during our foreplay, one of her boys woke up and came out into the front room where we were.
Instead of putting him back to bed, she let him crash on the couch. We went in the kitchen next to the room with the couch and fucked like wild beasts over the kitchen counter while the kid slept.
That's just wrong. But what are you going to do when kids are involved? Single moms will stop at nothing to get the cock. I bet if Nicole, or any woman in that position, was wanting the cock so bad, she would have put a paper bag over his head while we boned in the recliner.
OK, maybe that's a stretch but it's funny. Maybe it's not funny to Nicole. Hi Nicole. She was sexy. Petite with these fantastically large natural breasts. She was a thing of beauty but nowhere near my type. Looks can only get you so far with me.
And there was still another single mom that I really, REALLY liked. No, I was in love with her. I just couldn't express it right away. Her name was Angelina Morris. She had a little boy named Cody. And she was perfect. We had a lot in common and she was crazy about me.
But she got too close too quick and I pushed her away which made her decide to disappear. She had even warned me early on in our short lived relationship that once she makes the decision to leave, there is no going back.
And she was true to her word. Being a typical man, after I pushed her away because she was trying to hard to get too close too fast, I would call her late at night drunk confessing my feelings for her and trying to explain myself and how I didn't think she was being fair by not allowing me my room and time to get to know one another better.
This all went down in a matter of months. Soon, she would find someone else. That always hurt me. Maybe I deserved it. Maybe not. But I can say that I did love her. I also loved Lisa. Nicole was just a good time with sex.
But I think about how these single moms were looking at the situation involving me. Or any man they become attracted to.
For me, I try to keep my distance from single moms. It's not the kids but the possibility of losing my relationship with the woman I'm involved with. What happened with me and Angelina was tough. She meant a lot to me and I was excited to be with her and someday meet her young boy. I knew in my heart she was the girl for me.
I think I've mentioned this before but I openly told my friend Nick that she was going to be the girl I was going to marry. I had only felt that way once before with my ex-girlfriend, Christina. And I've never had that feeling again since Angelina. Nor have I had it after her.
For me, I'm looking to start a family of my own and not come into one that has already begun. There are many men out there, however, that like it the other way. I have several guy friends that have had successful relationships with single moms.
I don't know why I feel that way. It's just a preference. Of course, with my whole mental condition, I don't really have room to be picky. But I don't want to sell myself short, either.
Wait, that sounded bad. I'm not saying that being involved with a single mom would be selling myself short. Ahhhhhhhh, what's the use. I'm sure this blog will piss off several single moms no matter what.
If I were to encounter a single mom that had that spark the way Angelina got me going, I would have no reservations with hooking up with a single mom again. But right now it's not something I'm out seeking.
I have come to notice that many of the single moms here in Utah (and this is due in large part to the Mormon religion), are out there looking for a father and provider as opposed to a companion and lover. It's these women I try my best to stay away from. I just don't agree with this mentality... says the guy with the mental issues.
At this point in my life, maybe kids would be a good thing. But my own kids. As much as I hate to say it, my mom made a sacrifice. She loved me too much to really become involved with someone who might not only hurt her with a possible break up but hurt me to by being another non-existent male figure in my life.
I guess, actually I KNOW that it was hard on both of us. And some of that might have something to do with my problems today.
My man pig side just kicked in and reminded me how fun it is to feed the sexual beast of a single mom. They really love to have sex. Bunch of horny vixens, single moms. RAWR!
I sometimes feel guilt when having sex with a single mom. Women in general, especially single moms, have more of a bond and connection when it comes to sex then men do. Men eventually have these same feelings but it takes time. I've come to learn that women have it right away no matter how much they try to lie about or deny it.
Women are far more superior. They really are. They hold all the cards and they know it. I find that disturbingly hot and sexy.
I am in need of finding the right woman for me. Single mom or not. It's just something I'm desiring. But if I can't keep sane or keep a job... how the fuck am I going to keep a woman? Who knows! But I'm so up for the challenge.
-Mike The Janitor
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